zandertoyIt has been an extremely rough year at work. Had some major drama with my boss and in the end had to go above and speak to her manager.
It was extremely nerve racking because I ultimately betrayed her but in hindsight I have no regrets. I had zero sleep constantly going over the things I was going to say to her over and over, it was crazy.
With the support of her boss I was able to come clean about how I felt about her management. With absolutely zero sleep I came clean and spilled the tea. She was very flustered and I’m sure embarrassed that her direct report was coming to her with these harsh comments about her but I think it was kind of like a wake up call / smack in the face /realization of her old habits creeping back in. It was kind of perfect that all of that happened at the end of the year and having a long break (Christmas and New Years) to reflect and also kind of let the heat of that moment dissipate.
I know that its very hard for some bad habits to completely change but the fact that she was open to actually try and make effort to change has made a difference. It was a big enough change for the rest of the team to notice.
I feel like were starting to build a better relationship and feel like there has been a fresh start. I know that shell never be able to actually forget what I said to her but sometimes you have to be brutally honest and straight with certain people.
So far so good, were starting a new season so lets hope the good behavior continues.